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We all tend to go through difficult moments, have to deal with depression and suffer attacks from the laziness beast from time to time. You know, when you just don’t feel like working or when you are brooding over something uncomfortable that you went through.

How to deal with these emotional states? Well, I don’t deal with them. I just keep on pushing. I go on. And I rush against brick walls headlong if I have to. Eventually, bad things disappear, and are laid to rest. I am a cool, joyful, energetic and motivated person again. And I don’t look back. That’s how I deal with these sorts of things.

Creating great content for the Web during a period of heavy depression

I was severly hurt and disappointed by a friend once. That person, because of some stupid shortcomings and complexes of his own, treated me badly, behaved like a complete asshole, was generally arrogant and did some damage to me by behaving and acting like this in front of others and saying vile things about me.

And this coincided with a period when I didn’t have any feedback from people I’ve done some work for and I also happened to live in isolation, because I went abroad. I was a stranger in a strange country.

That (now former) friend’s actions and behaviour was the thing that sent me over the edge. I was depressed, feeling lonely and completely empty on the inside. I hated myself and others. I was bitter and resentful. I was getting drunk every evening to set off the unbearable emotional states that I was going through.

But I plodded on. I still went to my martial arts’ club regularly, to train, despite feeling awful because of alcohol, irregular sleeping times and depression. I was determined not to miss a single training session, because I didn’t want to have any regrets later. I forbade myself from breaking my good habits, despite the fact that I was thinking that no effort will ever amount to anything, because life sucks.

I also forced myself to work on a portal that I was building for months already, which was getting boring, because the day of the launch never seemed to appear on the horizon. I was unmotivated, because the project was big, I worked on it alone, so I didn’t have any feedback and there were no tangible results yet, of course. But I also coerced myself into working on it every single day, because I knew I didn’t want to have any regrets later.

I knew that somewhere in the near future, I would be thankful to myself for being disciplined during this bad period. And lo and behold, that day came. I went away for a weekend vacation, to rest a bit, and upon my return, I was a new man.

I was feeling refreshed, motivated and energized again. There was a big chunk of work finished… I launched the portal. I haven’t lost any time wallowing in my sorrow. It was bad, it was awful, but I never quit. There was nothing to regret. I was still fit. And I was prepared to push myself even more.

But the most important thing, I realized once more that I will always win. I will always go on and be successful and happy. No matter how bad things are. Sooner or later, everything gets better. And I reinforced my belief that I can accomplish anything and that nothing can break me.

Believe me, it is a wonderful feeling to look back at your own work and see how much you have accomplished even through difficult times.

Making yourself a winner and a badass

I am currently practicing a mixture of full contact and Muay Thai. When doing techniques, I always choose a partner who is hitting hard. Someone who likes to train and spar the real, raw way.

As I was training the other day, I felt some upper back pain that was really annoying. I think I overstrained a muscle or something. I wasn’t sure what it was, but it was bothersome. And I thought that I am not going to last throughout the whole training session. I was thinking “I will sit down and rest a bit, I don’t want to exhaust myself.”

Then I asked myself, “What if this was a real-world situation, a dangerous fight which I couldn’t afford to lose?” What? Tired? Exhausted? “Don’t give me that shit”, I said to myself and continued hitting and kicking my partner, with renewed energy and force.

And let me tell you, sometimes the pain makes you want to recoil. Sometimes you’d rather stop. Never stop. Keep on fighting. This is the result (actually, I took this photo an hour ago):

This is nothing. This is just the result of training properly. My partner knows well how to execute a kick, that’s all.

I realized that if I force myself, if I push myself through pain and exhaustion, I can always do much more. I can always perform way much better, I can always run more, make more pushups, crunches, hit harder, hit faster, be more resilient.

If you train hard, you will feel pain. Your muscles will be sore, you will be soaking with your own sweat. That is the only way to improve. Blood, sweat and pain.

I am always very happy at the end of my training sessions, because I know that I pushed myself to the extreme. If I don’t do that, I am only going to have regrets later.

Being aware of your infinite potential

Always keep in mind that nothing’s impossible. When going through hard times, know that you will feel better, that you will achieve your dreams, against all odds. Even if you feel like the whole world is falling apart and nothing makes sense, keep on working. Keep on pushing yourself.

Have faith that you will succeed, that this is just a temporary state, that you are the greatest and that happiness and joy await you. Believe in yourself, even when you are tempted to give in to depression, negativity, because of the circumstances you might find yourself in throughout your life.

Keep on breaking through the walls, keep on going through the storm and once the bad times are over, you will feel and know what it means to be a winner. You will have a new confidence. You will have a firm, unshakeable conviction that you can do anything. And you can, because you are a badass who laughs in the face of adversity.

Whether it is about speaking in public, working on a huge new project, training harder or anything else that might make you feel uncomfortable, go for it. It is precisely when you don’t feel at ease, when you feel uncomfortable, that you should seize the opportunity to improve. Because heroes are forged on the battlefield. Life is a challenge that you should embrace with your arms open, fearless and brave. You can succeed. Because you are a badass.

Effort always pays off.

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